Woo! Last day of writing a gratitude list for uni!
Firstly, a reflection. Writing a list every day has been a bit annoying and time consuming, but I think it’s really made this week more enjoyable. This grey, wet weather has been getting me down, and I’ve been struggling with juggling uni, work and gym. On top of that, Pete’s having a stressful time at work, so it would’ve been really easy to be unhappy, irritable or argumentative this week.
Instead, I’ve found myself exercising greater appreciation of the small things and by talking about it and sharing it with others, I feel like I’ve been able to spread the happiness.
Alongside gratitude, we also did some readings on savouring. One reading in particular stood out, the author was a professor and he said he was going to be doing a speech to recognise some undergrad psych students for their academic achievements. He told them to really savour the moment, to listen to every word in his speech, to congratulate themselves and allow a moment of self-pride and to share this moment with others if they could, either by taking family members along, by calling them afterwards or even writing a letter about the experience.
This really struck a chord with me, because I’m very much aware of the tall-poppy syndrome and know that it’s easier to not share success with others. Because of this, I spent a moment reflecting on the fact that I might be graduating this year, and to fully appreciate the work that’s gone in to get this far.
While I was doing my reading, I got some great news from my boss. Something I’ve been working on for the last 10 months has come to fruition, and will be resulting in success and recognition for my whole team. My immediate response was to think, “I can do better!” and I had to stop and force myself to really savour the moment and congratulate myself. And you know what…it feels really good!
Okay, now onto the list.
Gratitude List – Saturday 29/08/2015
I’m firstly grateful for my health and my body. I know that I’m incredibly lucky to have my physical and mental health, and it serves me well every moment of every day. I started the day with my usual Saturday morning gym session, and I noticed that I’m able to do tricep pushups really well – which is something I really struggled with in the beginning. I felt very grateful to be whole, healthy and strong.
I’m grateful for the time Pete spends with me, and how much he cares about my interests. I know some people tend to zone out when their partners talk about work or study, things that are considered boring. But Pete always listens. On Saturday morning I relayed to him what I’d learnt about depression – the subgroups, symptoms, comorbid factors, etc. He listened to every word, added more information and asked questions. It’s because of this supportive attitude that encourages me to do well in my studies.
I had a call from my dad, and again, I was grateful for his health. Can’t wait to catch up with him in person sometime soon.
I know I’ve mentioned this already as well, but I’m so grateful for friendships. Although I didn’t spend any time with friends yesterday (spent the vast majority of the day studying), I was reminded of them on a few lovely occasions. Firstly, I put on my favourite pair of boots to go out to brunch, and the sole of one felt slippery. I looked underneath, and found a picture of Jenny’s face, which immediately brought a smile to my face.
For context – when Pete and I went to Korea, Jenny and her partner (also Peter) house-sat for us. When they left, their parting gift was pictures of Jenny’s face in all sorts of random locations and we’ve been finding them ever since. This one was great because it took 5 weeks to be found. It’s like a treasure hunt in my own house.
Later in the day, I got a call from another friend. One that I haven’t seen in a few months, and I’ve been missing her a lot. We had a good chat and planned a catch up for tomorrow.
Lastly, I’m grateful for the mid semester break. I really hope I can get on top of my readings in the next week, this semester is proving to be a lot tougher than I expected. A week without classes is exactly what I need.